I'm really starting to believe it's the motor. In Repetier, undermanual control, I tried just manually moving the extruder 0.1mm at a time. As I clicked it seemed like it didn't fully start moving until i hit maybe 0.3mm. I can tell its not the pulley, because the actual motor axle was not moving. They were in synch. Not the boy band...

I may just order a new motor. They are only $20.